I Had the BEST Night … and Then You Hurt My Feelings

I Had the BEST Night … and Then You Hurt My Feelings

And then the WORST thing happened. You hurt my feelings. Then it was the worst night. My feelings got SOO hurt… When I tried to share, what I was saying hurt my partner. Now we are BOTH hurt! No one can see or hear the other. We both feel unseen. Unheard. Not cared about. Defensive. Scared. We both shut down. I cry. You pull away. Hell on earth. (more…)

How to Be Brave Enough to Be Seen with All Your Faults and Flaws

How to Be Brave Enough to Be Seen with All Your Faults and Flaws

Are you brave enough to be seen with all your faults and flaws?  Without being scared of being rejected? I recently read a post by my friend Jay Farrow about not having stage fright playing a character or in the courtroom, but being terrified to actually be seen. I related to his post SO much! Read more here on how to be seen and become brave enough to show your REAL YOU. (more…)

How to Deal With Rejection

How to Deal With Rejection

You don’t know how to deal with rejection? We spend a lot of time worrying about rejection. Why? In tribal culture, if we were rejected by our tribe, it literally meant we would be alone in the wilderness. The chance of surviving this is slim to none. And sometimes, humans make no sense. Sometimes, one is threatened by another, and the one in the “power” position expels the other for whatever reason. Learn more about on how to deal with rejection and the four key actions you want to take to overcome it. (more…)

How to Say No to Others and YES to Yourself

How to Say No to Others and YES to Yourself

Do you want to learn how to say no? I’ve been working on my “NO!” for 11 years. I remember when a therapist told me, “you don’t have to go back home to St Louis just because your parents are asking you to come home for the holiday.” I remember looking at her like, “WHAT?”  It was the FIRST time someone had given me PERMISSION to say NO to my parents and it was 2008. I was 31 years old. I was married with 2 kids. And I was introduced to saying NO to my parents. (more…)