And then the WORST thing happened. You hurt my feelings. Then it was the worst night. My feelings got SOO hurt… When I tried to share, what I was saying hurt my partner. Now we are BOTH hurt! No one can see or hear the other. We both feel unseen. Unheard. Not cared about. Defensive. Scared. We both shut down. I cry. You pull away. Hell on earth. (more…)
Do you want to learn how to be happy? The first thing is coming out of denial. Finding greater love for myself created a lot of clarity. That’s the trouble with personal work and coming out of denial. (more…)
Do you have unrealistic expectations on holidays? I had. When I was first divorced … My heart would f-ing break into shreds on holidays. I made up so many stories, mostly about how I was either a terrible parent or about how I was totally f-ing up my kids. I have spent holidays where I’ve cried the entire day, sobbing, going through multiple boxes of tissues … (more…)
Ready to learn how to take care of yourself first? I have been taking some extra time for self care recently. It’s incredible to me that I have this belief: That if others need me, it is more important for me to tend to them, that to tend to myself. I realize that’s a crazy thought and if you said it to me, I would be like, “WHAT?! NOOO”. (more…)
Why is it SO HARD to take responsibility and say, whoops! I messed up? I have a theory… based in shame. (more…)
I freak out about money. We all do money and deal with money issues differently. Don’t judge people with or without money. Most people don’t know how to handle their money.