Do you have unrealistic expectations on holidays? I had. When I was first divorced … My heart would f-ing break into shreds on holidays. I made up so many stories, mostly about how I was either a terrible parent or about how I was totally f-ing up my kids. I have spent holidays where I’ve cried the entire day, sobbing, going through multiple boxes of tissues … (more…)
Ready to learn how to take care of yourself first? I have been taking some extra time for self care recently. It’s incredible to me that I have this belief: That if others need me, it is more important for me to tend to them, that to tend to myself. I realize that’s a crazy thought and if you said it to me, I would be like, “WHAT?! NOOO”. (more…)
Why is it SO HARD to take responsibility and say, whoops! I messed up? I have a theory… based in shame. (more…)
I freak out about money. We all do money and deal with money issues differently. Don’t judge people with or without money. Most people don’t know how to handle their money.
Wonder if it’s possible to learn how to not feel lonely during the holidays? Loneliness sucks. Its draining. It makes us cry. Makes us wonder if we are good enough or what’s wrong with us. We wonder, if I did something better, or more, would someone love me? Feeling like this sucks all the time, but is especially sucky during the holidays, when it seems like everywhere we turn, there are families with little children and spouses with loved ones, and we aren’t feeling connected.
I was blessed again to do another craniosacral session that helped my client to learn how to deal with shame today that was just beautiful. Many of us were raised in dysfunctional homes. We learned to be quiet. Some of us had parents yell at each other “SHUT UP” which convinced us not to speak, even though they didn’t daily it to us. We got the message. We swallow down. We stop breathing. We stop feeling. We numb out. And the body stores the stories as pain, hidden, held pain, holding, holding, holding.