I Had the BEST Night … and Then You Hurt My Feelings

I Had the BEST Night … and Then You Hurt My Feelings

And then the WORST thing happened. You hurt my feelings. Then it was the worst night. My feelings got SOO hurt… When I tried to share, what I was saying hurt my partner. Now we are BOTH hurt! No one can see or hear the other. We both feel unseen. Unheard. Not cared about. Defensive. Scared. We both shut down. I cry. You pull away. Hell on earth. (more…)

How to Be Brave Enough to Be Seen with All Your Faults and Flaws

How to Be Brave Enough to Be Seen with All Your Faults and Flaws

Are you brave enough to be seen with all your faults and flaws?  Without being scared of being rejected? I recently read a post by my friend Jay Farrow about not having stage fright playing a character or in the courtroom, but being terrified to actually be seen. I related to his post SO much! Read more here on how to be seen and become brave enough to show your REAL YOU. (more…)

How to Deal With Rejection

How to Deal With Rejection

You don’t know how to deal with rejection? We spend a lot of time worrying about rejection. Why? In tribal culture, if we were rejected by our tribe, it literally meant we would be alone in the wilderness. The chance of surviving this is slim to none. And sometimes, humans make no sense. Sometimes, one is threatened by another, and the one in the “power” position expels the other for whatever reason. Learn more about on how to deal with rejection and the four key actions you want to take to overcome it. (more…)

How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations for the Holidays

an empty egg, broken in two pieces, painted yellow outside, with counting lines inside the egg shell, How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations for the Holidays

Do you have unrealistic expectations on holidays? I had. When I was first divorced … My heart would f-ing break into shreds on holidays. I made up so many stories, mostly about how I was either a terrible parent or about how I was totally f-ing up my kids. I have spent holidays where I’ve cried the entire day, sobbing, going through multiple boxes of tissues … (more…)

Are You a People Pleaser with Abandonment Issues? I Was One!

Are You a People Pleaser with Abandonment Issues? I Was One!

Are you a people pleaser with abandonment Issues? This was me. I lost a dream. I lost a fantasy. I lost the fairy tale. And I was addicted to it. It was my “Spiritual enlightenment” or “rock bottom” as some say… To realize that I didn’t need that “stuff” or that person to have happiness and love. I believed a marriage, 2 kids, a dog and a white picket fence meant happiness. But I was sadly mistaken. (more…)