Receive … what a word! What does it mean? To receive? Have you ever tried to GIVE something to someone … That you love … Out of love … Because you thought of them … What they like … Or maybe even what they NEED … And you gave it to them … And they didn’t receive it? Learn more about how to be open to receive love.
How to Be Open to Receive a Gift
Maybe your family or your friends tried to give you a gift? A necklace or a stuffed dragon they’ve had for many years … That they want you to have …
They offer you a piece of them …
It makes them special to give you something of yours and know you will have a piece of them with you …
- Maybe they knocked down a wall in your house to build you the kitchen of your dreams you always talk about …
- Maybe they gave you a haircut or a massage as a friend, and you tried to pay them back with money or a meal …
- Maybe they tried to take you on a 10 day trip to California and wanted to upgrade you to first class so you could be together …
- Or maybe they wanted to give you advice as they watch you about to crash head first into a wall …
- Maybe they asked you for help or support …
… and You Said No.
You didn’t receive…
What does that FEEL like for THEM?
Giving IS receiving…
If you didn’t get that… Read it again as if YOU were the giver and they didn’t receive you!
How Does It Feel?
If someone is giving me something, and I receive it, they had the opportunity to GIVE it and express love. If I don’t receive it… I actually TAKE AWAY the opportunity for them to LOVE ME.
How to Be Open to Receive Love
So … Why would we ever NOT want to receive something from someone?
You ever had your kid do something HORRIBLE?! Like completely disrespect you in public or make a gigantic mess? And you’re so angry you send them AWAY.
Pretty soon, they come back, head down, offering you a hug, or tears, of forgiveness…
How many times, out of anger, do we say NO to this display of love, this offering, this gift…
Because we are trying to “teach them a lesson?”
NOT LOVING SOMEONE Does Not Teach Them a Lesson
What’s the fucking lesson? That you’re an asshole? This tiny person is coming to us with a gift… And we DENY them the opportunity to LOVE US and MAKE UP.
This starts a LIFETIME of withholding giving and not apologizing or taking responsibility for their mistakes.
Maybe you were that child.
And we learn “Fuck you guys, I don’t need anyone.”
What a lonely place to be.
I Will Give You This But You Owe Me
Some of us growing up learned that others, especially those we were “supposed to” trust, GAVE WITH EXPECTATIONS and STRINGS ATTACHED…
Like: I’ll give you this today BUT YOU OWE ME... And if you don’t PAY me back YOU WILL PAY.
We quickly learned to NOT receive from these people for fear of punishment later.
Many of us also learned it's better to be in a position of giving... Because then WE were the one with the power... People would OWE us... If we kept track. Click To TweetCouples do this to each other:
- Tit for tat.
- This for that.
- I do, you do…
- Scores…
- Accounting…
Yuck.
That’s not open, unrequited, unconditional love… Not at all…
How to Be Open to Receive Is Maybe the Hardest Life Lesson to Learn
Receiving has been a HARD lesson for me to learn. I’ve vascillated between
- “fuck you guys, I’ll handle it myself,”
- “I’m entitled to all of this” and
- “I’m too scared to be controlled or owe you something so I won’t receive what you’re giving.”
I’m learning, day by day, that to receive is to allow another to GIVE.
No Exchange in a Relationship
I spent YEARS in a relationship where there was NO exchange. I needed it to learn that I WANT to receive. And also to be SOO grateful for every, single gift and offering.
- No more doing it alone.
- No more fuck you, I’ll handle everything
- No more “that’s not a good gift”
- No more keeping score
- No more denying love.
- No more giving to be in charge
People Are Giving Me Gifts and Presents From All Over
Now
- I receive loving offerings
- I am connected
- I allow love
- I give when I want and that’s it… Not to GET anything (man, when I do that, I know now… I instantly feel so depleted!)
- I clarify the intention of the gift if I feel like they think I will owe them something if I say yes
And you know what’s SUPER COOL about this shift for me?
People are giving me gifts and presents from all over it’s amazing!
Thank you to the people who have given me so much, especially when I didn’t know how accept, to say thank you, or understand that it was LOVE, not you being controlling…
I’m sorry for when I haven’t been able to receive. I’m so grateful for love and the opportunity to give by receiving.
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Heather Hundhausen, a mind/body/spirit healer and facilitator, works with heart centered individuals who are ready to release their physical and emotional pain and reconnect their minds with their bodies so they can start living a life of passion and purpose. She assists people in making decisions in their lives by following their heart, mind, intuition and soul, from a place of being whole and in integrity.
With over fifteen years as a licensed massage therapist, Heather understands the connection between how someone's emotions can show up as physical pain. Using a variety of massage techniques, including neuromuscular therapy and structural realignment, she now does her ground breaking work by helping her clients to reach back through the pain and remember who they are to create wholeness and fullness.
During her years practicing traditional massage therapy, and while an intern working on her Masters Degree in Mental Health Counseling, she realized that people responded strongly when addressing their feelings and not just their thoughts. Working with this knowledge, she began to create an experiential environment for her clients, having them focus less on what they were thinking and more on what they were feeling. She discovered that when people began to release their emotions, they also released their physical pain. Heather is now passionate about helping people do just this so they hear their inner voice and then act upon their intuition so they create a new physical, mental and emotional life for themselves.
Heather’s authenticity, integrity, honor, commitment to her clients, and ability to create trust ensures that client's have a safe space to experience the exploration and release of their pain. Her clients say she is skilled at spiritual and emotional healing and is a great partner to have on the journey to contentment. As one particular client stated, “She opened my heart so the grief could emerge and then joy was able to fill that space.”
Heather is a popular speaker and workshop leader and facilitator, with one of her most popular workshops, “Connect on Purpose: Interpreting Your Body's Signals for Greater Wisdom and Empowerment” helping guide people to live their purpose, which Heather describes as “being able to take your talents and gifts and put them into action.” She is currently authoring a book and developing additional workshops, including a meditation group.
A licensed massage therapist, specializing in Thai Massage, Neuromuscular Therapy and Myo-skeletal Alignment Technique, she has a Masters Degree in Mental Health Counseling, is certified in Redirecting Children’s Behavior as a facilitator and coach.
