Would you like to learn how to let go of pain and accept what is? What if you just choose to accept yourself exactly where you are right now at this moment? All of that suffering and pain would probably just go away. But we don’t know how to let go. We don’t know how to just accept what is. We feel like we need to fix it, we need to change it, we need to alter it, it could be better, it could be more.

How to Let Go of Pain and Accept What Is 

We think WE could be more. We think WE could be better.

But what if not? What if … We just left ourselves and others alone? What if we just looked at all of our faults and flaws, and instead of saying “ow this hurts, I need to fix it,” that instead we just said “huh here’s this pain again.”

Here’s this pain and this suffering that I know so well.

Are You Suffering to Feel Better … or More Hurt?

“But Heather, you don’t understand my suffering. You don’t understand how much it hurts! I can’t just surrender into it! I have to fix it!”

What if you didn’t? What if you just let yourself sit with your own pain?

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feather floating off a hand, How to Let Go of Pain and Surrender Into SufferingThe Inability to Let Go of Pain

I heard once the definition of suffering is the inability to let go of pain.

Pain happens.

It’s part of life.

We fall down, we bump our knee, it hurts … but if we continue focusing on it and thinking about it, complaining about it wondering about it  and seeking attention for it … It becomes suffering.


It Hurts All the Time

“But Heather! It hurts me! You don’t understand! It hurts all the time!”

I know… And, I’m going to say something you don’t want to hear.

Accept it.


Accept What Is

To learn how to let go means you accept what is. Accept whatever it is that hurts you and move on. We create a double hell by focusing on it.

By trying to get others to understand how much we are suffering. “CAN’T YOU SEE HOW MUCH I AM SUFFERING!” We seem to be screaming at the world…

But, sadly, no… The world doesn’t see… And most people don’t care. They’re focused on their own suffering.


The More Attention You Give Hurt, The More It Hurts

So … If you happen to know anyone trying to get attention for their pain or CHANGE it … You can let them know that trying to get people to SEE how much you’re hurting won’t actually make the hurt go away …

Why do we think like this?

I imagine because we CRAVE CONNECTION

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And we allow ourselves to be SO HURT (sometimes deeply damaged) by the results, or feedback we get from others about how we live… So hurt that they don’t see us or understand us …


Closing Down

And then WE CLOSE DOWN? WTF? How do we think that will be helpful? I have no idea… But we do it, and guess what happens? We just push the other person further away… When what we really need, want & crave is connection…

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How to Let Go: Accept the Pain

So … Pain is pain. Ouch. Yuck. It sucks. It hurts.

Accept it.

Whatever yours is. Physical, mental, emotional …

Do what you can reasonably do to fix it… But LET GO…

Because otherwise, we suffer …

Suffering is no fun for you, and definitely no fun for others. You might get attention for a while … But people can’t do suffering. They can do pain…

But not suffering… So, if you’re suffering, let go so someone can get close and give you the connection you really need.


Heather HundhausenOver the years, I have been a serial learner and practitioner, taking in information about psychology, religion, spirituality, science, medicine, quantum physics, relationships, parenting, and overall, general happiness and work-life balance.  I’ve been fascinated in what it takes to and have created my life of pure joy, happiness, balance and peace. It is my mission to spread what I have learned and practiced to you in ways that are simple, easy to understand AND implement.  I have served people in achieving realignment in their bodies, relationships and purpose for over 20 years.  If you liked this article, and you want to read more, please visit one of the links below:

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