Would you like to learn how to let go of pain and accept what is? What if you just choose to accept yourself exactly where you are right now at this moment? All of that suffering and pain would probably just go away. But we don’t know how to let go. We don’t know how to just accept what is. We feel like we need to fix it, we need to change it, we need to alter it, it could be better, it could be more.
How to Let Go of Pain and Accept What Is
We think WE could be more. We think WE could be better.
But what if not? What if … We just left ourselves and others alone? What if we just looked at all of our faults and flaws, and instead of saying “ow this hurts, I need to fix it,” that instead we just said “huh here’s this pain again.”
Here’s this pain and this suffering that I know so well.
Are You Suffering to Feel Better … or More Hurt?
“But Heather, you don’t understand my suffering. You don’t understand how much it hurts! I can’t just surrender into it! I have to fix it!”
What if you didn’t? What if you just let yourself sit with your own pain?
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The Inability to Let Go of Pain
I heard once the definition of suffering is the inability to let go of pain.
Pain happens.
It’s part of life.
We fall down, we bump our knee, it hurts … but if we continue focusing on it and thinking about it, complaining about it wondering about it and seeking attention for it … It becomes suffering.
It Hurts All the Time
“But Heather! It hurts me! You don’t understand! It hurts all the time!”
I know… And, I’m going to say something you don’t want to hear.
Accept it.
Accept What Is
To learn how to let go means you accept what is. Accept whatever it is that hurts you and move on. We create a double hell by focusing on it.
By trying to get others to understand how much we are suffering. “CAN’T YOU SEE HOW MUCH I AM SUFFERING!” We seem to be screaming at the world…
But, sadly, no… The world doesn’t see… And most people don’t care. They’re focused on their own suffering.
The More Attention You Give Hurt, The More It Hurts
So … If you happen to know anyone trying to get attention for their pain or CHANGE it … You can let them know that trying to get people to SEE how much you’re hurting won’t actually make the hurt go away …
Why do we think like this?
I imagine because we CRAVE CONNECTION.
We are all dying to be seen, heard, understood, loved & validated ... Click To TweetAnd we allow ourselves to be SO HURT (sometimes deeply damaged) by the results, or feedback we get from others about how we live… So hurt that they don’t see us or understand us …
Closing Down
And then WE CLOSE DOWN? WTF? How do we think that will be helpful? I have no idea… But we do it, and guess what happens? We just push the other person further away… When what we really need, want & crave is connection…
How to Let Go: Accept the Pain
So … Pain is pain. Ouch. Yuck. It sucks. It hurts.
Accept it.
Whatever yours is. Physical, mental, emotional …
Do what you can reasonably do to fix it… But LET GO…
Because otherwise, we suffer …
Suffering is no fun for you, and definitely no fun for others. You might get attention for a while … But people can’t do suffering. They can do pain…
But not suffering… So, if you’re suffering, let go so someone can get close and give you the connection you really need.
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Heather Hundhausen, a mind/body/spirit healer and facilitator, works with heart centered individuals who are ready to release their physical and emotional pain and reconnect their minds with their bodies so they can start living a life of passion and purpose. She assists people in making decisions in their lives by following their heart, mind, intuition and soul, from a place of being whole and in integrity.
With over fifteen years as a licensed massage therapist, Heather understands the connection between how someone's emotions can show up as physical pain. Using a variety of massage techniques, including neuromuscular therapy and structural realignment, she now does her ground breaking work by helping her clients to reach back through the pain and remember who they are to create wholeness and fullness.
During her years practicing traditional massage therapy, and while an intern working on her Masters Degree in Mental Health Counseling, she realized that people responded strongly when addressing their feelings and not just their thoughts. Working with this knowledge, she began to create an experiential environment for her clients, having them focus less on what they were thinking and more on what they were feeling. She discovered that when people began to release their emotions, they also released their physical pain. Heather is now passionate about helping people do just this so they hear their inner voice and then act upon their intuition so they create a new physical, mental and emotional life for themselves.
Heather’s authenticity, integrity, honor, commitment to her clients, and ability to create trust ensures that client's have a safe space to experience the exploration and release of their pain. Her clients say she is skilled at spiritual and emotional healing and is a great partner to have on the journey to contentment. As one particular client stated, “She opened my heart so the grief could emerge and then joy was able to fill that space.”
Heather is a popular speaker and workshop leader and facilitator, with one of her most popular workshops, “Connect on Purpose: Interpreting Your Body's Signals for Greater Wisdom and Empowerment” helping guide people to live their purpose, which Heather describes as “being able to take your talents and gifts and put them into action.” She is currently authoring a book and developing additional workshops, including a meditation group.
A licensed massage therapist, specializing in Thai Massage, Neuromuscular Therapy and Myo-skeletal Alignment Technique, she has a Masters Degree in Mental Health Counseling, is certified in Redirecting Children’s Behavior as a facilitator and coach.
