Day 8 of 12 Days of Christmas Presence: Forgiveness is more than an impossible word.
So many of my clients struggle with grief and forgiveness.
After years of working with people on this subject, I have realized it comes down to 2 basic things. And, it doesn’t matter if we are talking something BIG like forgiveness, or something BIG like getting healthy, or something SMALL like putting on the gym clothes. (Sometimes, you’ve gotta just break it down into small manageable steps).
But here is the reality.
One part of us is “protecting” us, in other words, managing the status quo, and the other part of us wants to “evolve,” expand, awaken, actually be pain free, or whatever you want to call it.
Here’s the simplest way I can support you with forgiveness.
Feel the pain that the other person caused you.
FEEL it in your body.
GOD it hurts.
It’s terrible.
Whatever they did, whether they hurt you, betrayed you, or abandoned you, it sucks.
Feel it.
Now, here’s the hard part.
Keep feeling that pain, but open your eyes.
Look around the room you are in.
Are they in the room?
NO
YOU ARE HURTING YOURSELF.
In this moment, both parts of you say, “uh oh.”
The part that is trying to protect the status quo (meaning the part that wants to keep hurting because they hurt you) and the part that wants to stop hurting.
Both parts of you just realized YOU ARE HURTING YOU.
And, it makes no sense to do that.
Are you willing to let go?
So, if you’re willing to let go of that story you are running that keeps you hurting, and step into forgiveness, repeat after me
____, I forgive you, and I set myself free, unless I choose to use you, to imprison myself again.
Again
____, I forgive you, and I set myself free, unless I choose to use you and this PAINFUL STORY, to imprison myself again and cause myself pain.
I’m done with hurting myself.
I’m letting go now.
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Over the years, I have been a serial learner and practitioner, taking in information about psychology, religion, spirituality, science, medicine, quantum physics, relationships, parenting, and overall, general happiness and work-life balance. I’ve been fascinated in what it takes to and have created my life of pure joy, happiness, balance and peace. It is my mission to spread what I have learned and practiced to you in ways that are simple, easy to understand AND implement. I have served people in achieving realignment in their bodies, relationships and purpose for over 20 years. If you liked this article, and you want to read more, please visit one of the links below:
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Heather Hundhausen, a mind/body/spirit healer and facilitator, works with heart centered individuals who are ready to release their physical and emotional pain and reconnect their minds with their bodies so they can start living a life of passion and purpose. She assists people in making decisions in their lives by following their heart, mind, intuition and soul, from a place of being whole and in integrity.
With over fifteen years as a licensed massage therapist, Heather understands the connection between how someone's emotions can show up as physical pain. Using a variety of massage techniques, including neuromuscular therapy and structural realignment, she now does her ground breaking work by helping her clients to reach back through the pain and remember who they are to create wholeness and fullness.
During her years practicing traditional massage therapy, and while an intern working on her Masters Degree in Mental Health Counseling, she realized that people responded strongly when addressing their feelings and not just their thoughts. Working with this knowledge, she began to create an experiential environment for her clients, having them focus less on what they were thinking and more on what they were feeling. She discovered that when people began to release their emotions, they also released their physical pain. Heather is now passionate about helping people do just this so they hear their inner voice and then act upon their intuition so they create a new physical, mental and emotional life for themselves.
Heather’s authenticity, integrity, honor, commitment to her clients, and ability to create trust ensures that client's have a safe space to experience the exploration and release of their pain. Her clients say she is skilled at spiritual and emotional healing and is a great partner to have on the journey to contentment. As one particular client stated, “She opened my heart so the grief could emerge and then joy was able to fill that space.”
Heather is a popular speaker and workshop leader and facilitator, with one of her most popular workshops, “Connect on Purpose: Interpreting Your Body's Signals for Greater Wisdom and Empowerment” helping guide people to live their purpose, which Heather describes as “being able to take your talents and gifts and put them into action.” She is currently authoring a book and developing additional workshops, including a meditation group.
A licensed massage therapist, specializing in Thai Massage, Neuromuscular Therapy and Myo-skeletal Alignment Technique, she has a Masters Degree in Mental Health Counseling, is certified in Redirecting Children’s Behavior as a facilitator and coach.
