Our inner voice tells us to avoid conflict. Too often, there was too much conflict in our homes growing up. We were powerless. We didn’t feel like we could stop them or make a difference.
What We Really Need: Stop Avoiding Conflict and Start Speaking Up
The trouble is, when we grow up without learning confidence, we keep avoiding conflict and remain powerless. We don’t get our needs met. Often because we are too afraid to say what we need, or even worse, we just don’t know.
This causes resentment inside of US towards those we supposedly love.
If you avoid conflict to keep the peace you start a war inside yourself. ~Heather Hundhausen Click To TweetBut if we really loved them, and ourselves, wouldn’t we tell them what we need, so they could love and support us back?
Lying About What We Really Need to Avoid Losing Love
Not telling them what we really need is actually a form of lying. Lying is betrayal. So, avoiding conflict is actually a betrayal of the trust of the relationship!
I know a man who’s wife badgers him to take care of the kids, clean the house and do what she wants. Instead of telling her, “NO” and that he doesn’t want to do it, he say, “ok,” but then doesn’t do it! This makes her crazy! We have been talking about how this is a form of him giving away his power, and also how it doesn’t feel good INSIDE OF HIS SOUL to say YES when he means NO. He does this to avoid conflict with her, but ends up creating conflict inside of himself.
Love Yourself So You Can Love Others
So… Let’s start speaking up, and giving others the opportunity to love us! Even if it means a little conflict to do so.
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Heather Hundhausen, a mind/body/spirit healer and facilitator, works with heart centered individuals who are ready to release their physical and emotional pain and reconnect their minds with their bodies so they can start living a life of passion and purpose. She assists people in making decisions in their lives by following their heart, mind, intuition and soul, from a place of being whole and in integrity.
With over fifteen years as a licensed massage therapist, Heather understands the connection between how someone's emotions can show up as physical pain. Using a variety of massage techniques, including neuromuscular therapy and structural realignment, she now does her ground breaking work by helping her clients to reach back through the pain and remember who they are to create wholeness and fullness.
During her years practicing traditional massage therapy, and while an intern working on her Masters Degree in Mental Health Counseling, she realized that people responded strongly when addressing their feelings and not just their thoughts. Working with this knowledge, she began to create an experiential environment for her clients, having them focus less on what they were thinking and more on what they were feeling. She discovered that when people began to release their emotions, they also released their physical pain. Heather is now passionate about helping people do just this so they hear their inner voice and then act upon their intuition so they create a new physical, mental and emotional life for themselves.
Heather’s authenticity, integrity, honor, commitment to her clients, and ability to create trust ensures that client's have a safe space to experience the exploration and release of their pain. Her clients say she is skilled at spiritual and emotional healing and is a great partner to have on the journey to contentment. As one particular client stated, “She opened my heart so the grief could emerge and then joy was able to fill that space.”
Heather is a popular speaker and workshop leader and facilitator, with one of her most popular workshops, “Connect on Purpose: Interpreting Your Body's Signals for Greater Wisdom and Empowerment” helping guide people to live their purpose, which Heather describes as “being able to take your talents and gifts and put them into action.” She is currently authoring a book and developing additional workshops, including a meditation group.
A licensed massage therapist, specializing in Thai Massage, Neuromuscular Therapy and Myo-skeletal Alignment Technique, she has a Masters Degree in Mental Health Counseling, is certified in Redirecting Children’s Behavior as a facilitator and coach.
