What’s wrong with me? Do I have to change who I am to make my relationship work?!
What’s Wrong With Me That I Cannot Keep My Relationships?
- My Belief: Relationships don’t work because there’s something wrong with me.
- Solution: I read every self help book and watch every youtube video to twist and contort myself into something my man actually wants.
- Result: I feel like shit. I know I’m not living my authentic life. I’m exhausted trying to pretend to be someone I’m not. I feel like I walk on eggshells. I don’t even know my own truth anymore.
Stop buying the bullshit
There is nothing wrong with you, except maybe your “stinking thinking!” You are perfectly made. You don’t have to change who you are in order to make someone else happy!
- Question: Then how do I find AND KEEP the love of my life?
- Answer: Be your fully expressed, authentic self.
Do you know who you are separate from whoever you date?
Are you secretly, truly, a woman who loves to overeat, loves to speak your loud, raucous opinions, loves to dance and have a lot of fun?
But when you’re with a man, you try to cram yourself into
- “tiny” outfits,
- eat salads,
- be “nice” (oh barf) and
- contain your wildness because that’s what Men’s Health said men want in their latest article?
Sound familiar?
Shut the front door
That is ridiculous. I worked with a coaching client on owning her loud mouth, her proud opinions, and her voluptuous body. It took her a few years to drop all of her judgments about herself, but when she finally did, guess what happened?
Man of her dreams showed up!
He is as equally loud, large and outspoken and he LOVES her confidence, personality, opinions and sexy ways!
She would have missed out on him if she had continued to cram herself into those little boxes, those judgments, and that size 4 skirt from 20 years ago.
Your Value has everything to do with YOU
Your value has NOTHING to do with your size, how “sweet” you are, how “feminine” you are or any of that other bullshit.
Your value has everything to do with being YOU! When you stop acting like you’re broken, or have some missing piece, that’s when everything you want shows up and brings that ridiculous happiness you’ve been chasing.
Stop chasing happiness! Stop chasing the man. Stop contorting yourself.
Instead,
- Find you.
- Express yourself.
- Love yourself.
- Acknowledge yourself.
- Play.
- Create.
- Find, earn and build your confidence.
- Be the woman you were intended to be.
And you will become irresistible to the men who you will actually FIT with!
What’s Wrong With Me? There’s Nothing Wrong With You
Except your judgments about all of the things that are wrong with you!! Let that shit go! It’s holding you back from your own happiness!
Heather Hundhausen, a mind/body/spirit healer and facilitator, works with heart centered individuals who are ready to release their physical and emotional pain and reconnect their minds with their bodies so they can start living a life of passion and purpose. She assists people in making decisions in their lives by following their heart, mind, intuition and soul, from a place of being whole and in integrity.
With over fifteen years as a licensed massage therapist, Heather understands the connection between how someone's emotions can show up as physical pain. Using a variety of massage techniques, including neuromuscular therapy and structural realignment, she now does her ground breaking work by helping her clients to reach back through the pain and remember who they are to create wholeness and fullness.
During her years practicing traditional massage therapy, and while an intern working on her Masters Degree in Mental Health Counseling, she realized that people responded strongly when addressing their feelings and not just their thoughts. Working with this knowledge, she began to create an experiential environment for her clients, having them focus less on what they were thinking and more on what they were feeling. She discovered that when people began to release their emotions, they also released their physical pain. Heather is now passionate about helping people do just this so they hear their inner voice and then act upon their intuition so they create a new physical, mental and emotional life for themselves.
Heather’s authenticity, integrity, honor, commitment to her clients, and ability to create trust ensures that client's have a safe space to experience the exploration and release of their pain. Her clients say she is skilled at spiritual and emotional healing and is a great partner to have on the journey to contentment. As one particular client stated, “She opened my heart so the grief could emerge and then joy was able to fill that space.”
Heather is a popular speaker and workshop leader and facilitator, with one of her most popular workshops, “Connect on Purpose: Interpreting Your Body's Signals for Greater Wisdom and Empowerment” helping guide people to live their purpose, which Heather describes as “being able to take your talents and gifts and put them into action.” She is currently authoring a book and developing additional workshops, including a meditation group.
A licensed massage therapist, specializing in Thai Massage, Neuromuscular Therapy and Myo-skeletal Alignment Technique, she has a Masters Degree in Mental Health Counseling, is certified in Redirecting Children’s Behavior as a facilitator and coach.
